Our story of who we are, our identity does not have to be fixed. It can grow, expand, change and take shape over time.
Are you open to re-writing your story, your identity of who you are?
Did you consciously choose and create the identity you have today? How did you get it? Did you work to define it or has it been shaped by the experiences you’ve had until now?
Are you happy with your identity and story?
If you expanded it and made the biggest wildest dream you could possibly imagine, what is the very worst thing that could happen?
“What’s the worst that can happen?” is a thought process, a question that I see time and again from those showing a big bold mindset. When one really answers this question and reflects on it, we often discern that many of the beliefs we’ve been building on fall away and the downside risks are far less than we may have perceived them to be.
What comes up for you when you think of re-writing your identity and story, of reinventing yourself?
Are you like my friend from college days, Paul who firmly believes you are who you are and you can’t change who you are at your core?
Or are you more open to the possibilities that Professor Carol Dweck, outlines in her book, “Mindset”? That our brains have neuro plasticity and we can literally expand and re-write our script. I love the small language tweak that she advises when a child (or adult) will say “I’m no good at this”. The tweak is simply to add the word “yet” at the end of the sentence to become “I’m no good at this yet”. Those simple three letters open a world of possibility.
What’s the identity that you’ve not created yet? What possibilities could you create?
As our world changes and technology and Al redefine processes, jobs and roles that humans have traditionally done, this identity redefinition is vital.
In my early career, I defined my place in the world, the value I could bring to the world by the role I performed. It was as much an identity as a definition of value.
I was an accountant. That was who I was.
Imagine now technology can now do 80 to 100% of that role? Where would that leave my identity? I’ve been replaced by a machine. It’s easy to see a pathway to feeling that one brings no value which would be a terrible place to be.
For you, for your work place, for your home team, how aware and equipped are you and they to re-write their story?
Make no mistake that this is a skill set and one that I believe is vital. What is your skill level at re-writing your story and how equipped are you as a leader to help others on their journey?